Communication Skills

photo.PNGWhy is it important for your child to be more specific in his/her communication skills of excellence?

At birth we establish our own mental ‘filtering system’ which we use to internally process the Million Plus bits of information being received per second through our senses (visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory, and gustatory) to which we then apply an individualistic representation or ‘State of Mind.’ This internal representational system is expressed verbally through our use of language, and non-verbally through our physiology.

Verbal (Language)


AT NLP Training 4 Kids we understand that the language a child uses to express their own internal representation is an exceptionally important piece of information which allows us to understand how they structure their self-expression. The words they use are profoundly powerful when taking into consideration how they deliver information about their own personal processes.

German Philosopher Wittgenstein stated that the language we use ‘Mirrors our world.‘ One of the presuppositions of NLP is: ‘The meaning of your communication is the response you receive‘. Working off this basis from a young age means that by developing the capability to express him/herself specifically and effectively your child will then be able to speak from a point of excellence thus creating for him/her the ability to achieve any desired outcome and result.

Non-Verbal (Physiology)

At NLP Training 4 Kids we teach the importance of the ‘Mind/Body Connection’.

The mind and body are intrinsically connected by cells, neurons, photons, the nervous system, the autonomic nervous system, etc. Each and every thought transmutes down within nanoseconds into our physical body. This means that what we think (our mental state) is immediately reflected in our physiology. For example; when we do something enjoyable or begin to think of a happy memory we may smile, our skin will flush slightly as the heart rate increases, and we may even jump for joy. A negative emotion may result in a clenched jaw, muscle tension, mouth tension and pale skin tone. These are examples of how we continuously express ourselves through our physiology.

An excellent metaphor for this is: The child walking through the playground with his/her shoulders hunched, looking at the floor, avoiding eye contact, chest tucked in, and a general lack of direction is communicating exactly where s/he is ‘at’ inside his/her own mind. S/he may be feeling sad, confused, anxious, insecure, or any other negative emotion.

The child who walks through the playground with his/her head held high, eyes bright, glowing complexion, steady walk, and a smile is also communication his/her positive mental state.


Having a clear understanding of the profound importance of both these forms of communication is one of the key focal elements at NLP Training 4 Kids. During our NLP Training 4 Kids Program your child will learn how to express themselves specifically, directly, effectively, and above all; excellently.

What would it be that your child would achieve having made the decision to communicate from a point of excellence?

What would that be?

How would you know?

What would be different?

That would be the difference that makes a difference would it not?

A large percentage of childhood problems and complaints stem from unresolved and unexpressed traumas and emotional issues which then cause the child variant indifferences within their perception of themselves, their environment and the people in it.

These unresolved dynamics influence the level of anxiety, stress, worry, confidence, self-belief and self-esteem within and in and of themselves. These ‘labels‘ are all outward expressions of inward predispositions, which are symptomologies of Effect. The child in question is showing his/her in-congruency with a correct alignment of Self; which correlates into his/her perception of society, teachers, education, friends, school, and parents. These symptomologies allow us at NLP Training 4 Kids to understand how to bring them back to being at Cause for themselves.

Having made the decision to communicate from a point of excellence, at NLP Training 4 Kids, your child will develop the ability to recognise the extensive effect their communication has on themselves and others.

Within the content of the training we will touch upon Perception / Projection which integrates the understanding of how & what we see in another person is in and of itself a projection of ourselves. There is never not a time that we are not projecting who and what we are out onto the world and people around us.


Between the ages 8-12 a child is going through his/her modelling period. Which means that they are learning how to idolise the people around them. They may choose a specific person and model their behaviour, clothes, posture, likes and dislikes etc. With this in mind; ensuring that your child models from the most effective, and positive communicative standpoint would be of great value to them going forward would it not?

An excellent metaphor for this is: Little Johnny who is 12 years old goes upstairs to bed, when saying goodnight to his parents his father gives him a big hug, tells him that he is a ‘Good boy’ with lots of love and positive energy.

The next evening Johnny goes upstairs to bed, when saying goodnight to his parents his father raises his voice and shouts at Johnny and tells him to ‘Get out of his sight’.

The next evening Johnny goes upstairs to bed, when saying goodnight to his parents his father gives him a big warm hug, he smiles and tells him that he is a ‘Good boy’. Kiss, kiss, love, love.

The next evening Johnny goes upstairs to bed, when saying goodnight to his parents his father raises his voice, shouts at Johnny, and tells him to ‘Get out of his sight’ and ‘Go upstairs to bed NOW!!!’

This goes on for a while and as Johnny grows up, his sense of Self, understanding of the world around him, and the people in it is filled with confusion, doubt, anxiety, frustration, stress and inhibition.

Was it Johnny’s father who Caused him to have this sense of confusion, doubt, anxiety etc.?

Or was it in fact how Johnny perceived his environment and the people in it at the time which then caused him to create his own self judgement and limiting beliefs?

By refining and bringing awareness of this concept of Perception/Projecting into their model of the world, your child will have the flexibility of behaviour to perceive all social situations, school scenarios, relationships at home, friendships, and educational criteria, with greater clarity of mind, enthusiasm, confidence, self-assurance, direction, and focus.

“All our knowledge has its origins in our own perceptions – Leonardo da Vinci”

Having in place your child’s new concept of learning, understanding and perspective of self, how will this best help him or her communicate more positively and effectively in relation to the model of their world, the environment and the people in it that will then get for the child what he/she most desires?

At NLP Training 4 Kids, we ask this question: ‘What do I have now? And how can I get more of what it is that I already have by consistently communicating from a point of excellence, all the time; every time? (‘Now’ – Optional)


Having in place your child’s new concept of Self is a key stepping stone to enhancing their (and your) aptitude and capability to achieve any and all desired outcomes in life as they are now able to appreciate their world and everyone else’s world from a different, more profound perspective.

This positive, and flexible state of mind will have a domino knock on effect through the whole family. With teachers at school, classmates, and everyone your child comes into contact with in the future.

As mentioned above, between the ages of 7-14 is a critical time in your child’s self-development. Developing the ability to communicate more specifically, precisely, and decisively, will give them and get them a clearer sense of direction and focus as they go through school and on to University. As well as enhancing their creativity with ‘outside the box’ thinking.

Your child’s mind is an innately complex mechanism which when worked with and re-trained (through the use of Unconscious Persuasive Language of Influence) to be consistently positive will become an unlimited tool for success.